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Club Love: Policies, Ethics & Etiquette

At Club Love, we foster a community centred around mutual respect, radical consent, and the celebration of queerness, kink, and pleasure. Our events are curated to provide safer, inclusive, and sex-positive spaces that reject mainstream norms rooted in entitlement, misogyny, or binary gender assumptions. Below is a comprehensive guide to the culture and expectations we uphold.

Consent is Non-Negotiable

Consent must be:

• Verbal
• Informed
• Ongoing
• Enthusiastic
• It can be withdrawn at any time. We expect all attendees to communicate clearly about their own boundaries and be attuned to the comfort, responses, and autonomy of everyone around them.

This applies on the dance floor, in chill areas, and in all play spaces. Touching anyone without consent—even casually—is unacceptable and will result in immediate removal and a permanent ban.

Phones & Photography

NO PHONES OUT.

We have a strict no-photo, no-recording policy. An in-house photographer may float discreetly through dance and chill areas, but they will always ask for your permission before taking any photos. If you’d rather not be photographed, we ask that you avoid posing and signal your preference clearly.

Anyone caught using their camera or recording device will be immediately escorted out and banned from future events.

Periods, Blood, and Bodily Fluids

We welcome and affirm all bodies and cycles. Menstruation is not a taboo, and we ask that all guests respect one another’s choices around period sex and play. We stock cleaning materials in the play spaces and encourage you to care for the space and yourselves with awareness.

Blood play and other edge practices that carry additional STI risk are not permitted at Club Love events. This is to protect the wellbeing of our community and maintain an accessible environment for all. We foster a culture free from shame and stigma, but rooted in care, safety, and mutual accountability.

Playroom Ethics & Boundaries

• Club Love is not a “free-for-all” sex party. Play is welcome, but only within a strong framework of consent, clarity, and communication.
• If play spaces are your interest, consider your boundaries in advance. Know what you’re open to, what you’d prefer to avoid, and be ready to communicate clearly with potential partners.
• There is no guarantee you’ll find a playmate on any given night—keep your expectations grounded, and never pressure others.
• Our cuddle room is for rest and aftercare only—no play is permitted in this space.
• If you’re feeling overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or unsure at any point, please speak to a well-being team member. You will be supported with care and without judgment.

Play Space Entry

• Play spaces operate under a strict entry policy. You may only enter with a play partner or group—no solo entry is permitted.
• Event staff at the entrance will assess your state of mind and level of intoxication to ensure you’re capable of giving and receiving informed consent.
• We use a traffic light safeword system in shared spaces:
  • GREEN = Yes / Continue
  • AMBER = Slow down / Check in
  • RED = Stop immediately 
• If you feel coerced, pressured, or unsafe, speak to the Playroom Supervisor or any staff member immediately.

Our Values vs. Mainstream Swinger Culture

Club Love exists as a rejection of outdated, heteronormative, and transactional play cultures often seen in mainstream swinging communities. We do not endorse practices where cis men feel entitled to women’s or femmes’ bodies, where gender roles are rigidly enforced, or where queer experiences are tokenised or misunderstood.

We prioritise:

• Queer-centred dynamics
• Gender fluidity and non-binary inclusion
• Consent-first interactions
• Emotional intelligence and shared responsibility

Sex positivity must be rooted in liberation—not in outdated notions of conquest or control.

STI Safety, Clean-Up, and Honesty

We encourage regular sexual health screenings and radical honesty with play partners. There is no shame in living with an STI, but there is a responsibility to communicate clearly about it.

We provide in all play areas:

• Condoms and dams
• Lube
• Puppy pads
• Antibacterial gel
• Wet wipes & dry towels

Use protection for all genital contact—including on toys—and clean up after yourselves. If you notice mess left by others, please notify a Playroom Supervisor.

Voyeurism & Watching

We recognise that voyeurism is a valid kink. However, watching still requires consent.

Solo watching and masturbation—particularly without invitation—often disrupts the energy of playrooms and can feel intrusive. We do not permit guests to “hover,” ask to watch mid-play, or masturbate solo in group spaces. Mind your energy. Respect the room.

Harassment & Discrimination

We have a zero-tolerance policy for harassment, coercion, discrimination, or violation of boundaries. If you see or experience anything concerning:

• Report it to  a well-being monitor
• We will take action swiftly and discreetly
  We do not tolerate any form of discrimination based on gender identity, sexual orientation, race, body size, disability, class, age, or religion. Introduce yourself with your pronouns where possible, and never assume someone else’s.

“No” is a complete sentence. It requires no justification.

Guests & Membership Accountability

Club Love members may bring one guest per event, but are responsible for ensuring their guest understands and abides by our etiquette. If a guest is ejected for a policy breach, both the guest and the inviting member will be banned from future events.

Toys & Gear

Guests may bring personal toys or specialist sexual health items. Please note:

• We do not provide power outlets for external toys or devices.
• All toys must be cleaned before and after use.
• Use protection on shared toys.

Cloakroom & Dress

• We provide a staffed cloakroom but no changing area other than the gender neutral toilets.
• Please bring a robe, wrap, or cover-up for trips to the toilet or outside (for smoking). Nudity is not permitted outside the venue.

Privacy & Confidentiality

By attending a Club Love event, you agree:

• Not to share, post, or publish any information, images, or personal details about attendees or event activities
• Not to use any content from the event for commercial purposes without our written permission
  We take the privacy and safety of our community seriously. Anyone found violating these terms will be permanently removed and may face legal consequences.

• Rejection & Emotional Maturity

Rejection is a natural and essential part of any sex-positive space. At Club Love, we ask all members and guests to cultivate emotional maturity and self-awareness around hearing a “no.”

Whether someone declines to play, doesn’t respond to flirtation, or simply walks away from an interaction—that is their right. It does not require justification.

We remind you:

• A “no” is not a personal attack.
• A “maybe later” is not a yes.
• An absence of enthusiasm is not a green light.

If someone declines your invitation or sets a boundary:

• Don’t question them
• Don’t try to convince them
• Don’t sulk, shame, or retaliate
• Don’t take it to social media, a group chat, or try to undermine them

This isn’t just etiquette—it’s safety. Queer and kink spaces thrive when we foster mutual respect, not entitlement. The ability to hear “no” with grace is what sets apart an empowered, inclusive space from a toxic one.

If you feel overwhelmed by rejection or a difficult interaction, our well-being team is available to support you without judgment.